Teddi Mellencamp Wonders if Edwin Arroyave Divorce Was ‘A Mistake’

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum Teddi Mellencamp was not always firm about his decision to divorce Edwin Arroyave.

“We went to all this couples therapy and it outed me as being an introvert, and that was shocking information to everyone, even though I’ve been saying that my whole life,” said Mellencamp, 43. , on Thursday January 16. episode of his “Diamonds in the Rough” podcast. “I’m naturally introverted, so I enjoy my alone time [and] I need to recharge my batteries.

Although she found comfort in quiet times, she was not ready to face the increased loneliness of divorce. (Mellencamp separated from Arroyave, 47, in the fall of 2024 and filed for divorce in November.)

“There are times that I feel now, where I feel really alone and I don’t know if these feelings of loneliness mean that I’ve made a mistake or if it’s just something that I have to get used to and This is the new change in my life,” Mellencamp questioned, trying to hold back tears. “Oh my God, I’m so embarrassed to get emotional, but this is such a confusing part of this.”

She continued: “Are you supposed to make it or are you supposed to give it away [time]?”

Co-host of Mellencamp’s podcast, Erika Jayne – whose personal life made headlines in 2020 following her split from a now-disbarred lawyer Thomas Girardi – stepped in to share his support.

“She’s in the thick of it right now, and it’s very fresh and very hard,” Jayne, 53, said during Thursday’s episode. “I feel for her because none of this is easy and to get back up and even be on a podcast today and talk about it. You know, Teddi, you need to give yourself a break. If you didn’t say you were lonely, I’d worry you were.

For Mellencamp, it’s as if she feels a “constant pain” that she’s “trying to fake.” [her] way through’ each day.

“I’ve talked about it in therapy, but it’s almost like I’m being drawn into another chaotic situation,” Mellencamp said. “I don’t want to say too much about my parents or anything like that, but it’s clear that my father [John Mellencamp] was a rock star. He met a girl at the Rainbow Room and she was my mom and they had babies. [while] he was already married. As if everything was like… a show.

Teddi continued: “There have been a lot of ups and downs in my life, and my only goal has always been… to give my children stability. I don’t know if it’s loneliness or if I’m afraid, [but] I don’t feel like I’m good enough for any of these things either.

Teddi and Arroyave share daughters Slate, 12, and Dove, 4, as well as son Cruz, 10. (Arroyave is also the father of daughter Isabella, 15, from a past relationship.)